Hadith number in Sahih Muslim [Arabic only]: 3894
K saw me in hijab and acted all two-faced about how happy she was for me, while she talked behind my back and basically said to another friend that I am "offensive to all womenkind", willingly "submitting" to a "culture", "dumb", "misguided", "backwards"... She "disowned me" reports my milk brother, who still keeps in touch with both of us. I am okay with that. I hope her life turns out okay. InshaAllah Allah guides her. Indeed all my former BFF's, ameen. I love them for the sake of Allah subhanhu wa ta'ala and also for my own sake.
She married for money, got all her designer clothes, plus a settlement from a lawsuit, and she has money and friends and a career in public relations, but she's been divorced already, and her addiction to drugs made her look alot rougher the last time I saw her, when she came into my work. Beauty that she depended on fades all too quickly, same with youth, and brains can be attractive if they are paired with kindness, but not when they are married to greed and ruthlessness. I've never seen "Guess-ing" work out too well for anyone.
I didn't think Muslim women would do such a thing, but my husband and Aalia's husband say "Guess-ing" is common and more expensive in the Gulf. Authoobillahi! Khalid, in Oman, told me he couldn't afford to get married to a Muslim girl, so he was looking to find a chaste and decent Christian woman. HOW SAD IS THAT FOR OUR UMMAH? Sighhhhh.... And the fact that I could truly be a chaste and decent Christian woman to him. I was chaste, but decent and ``Christian`` I could ONLY HAVE BEEN by association of my ancestry and skintone , not my faith and good works.
Walking downtown the other day, two other sisters (Boxie and Megan) and I commented on how needlessly sexual the adverts outside Guess were:I know is it is horribly cliche for a Muslim woman to say, in her clothes, and in her hijab, she is not a marketing object, but looking at these adds, half-naked women and men often engage in soft-core porn to sell handbags and denim. They are too sexual even for the clothes, which can be worn in a respectful and decent manner at ladies-only functions. Or vamped up for deserving and HONORABLE Muslim husbands. I`d totally wear this look below when no one`s around but my man though I won`t be hiking it up to my crotch while someone takes a picture that`s for sure.: I don`t think a woman`s worth is in her ability to sell clothes and handbags and perfumes in magazines. MashaAllah there is one African sister in our city who scrubs the floors in the hospitol here as a janitor who was approached by the same modelling company that discovered Canadian supermodel Daria Warowby. When they asked her if she`d become a model she said she would rather scrub floors for the rest of her life than objectify her sex into mindless things to attract likely undeserving men in order to survive. May Allah reward her, because He knows I struggled more when I was approached to act on TV sans hijab, though I eventually turned that down, alhamdulilah. I don`t have a problem with models, or tv, or the Guess brand, what I have a problem with is ``Guess-ing`` and media that promotes and flaunts `Guess-ing``, using young women up and convincing them that they are nothing without things and a man. You need at least one, they whisper, through billboards and telly adverts.
I came very close to trying to make myself look like this particular Guess model pictured above. Her name is Megan Ewing and her face looks alot like mine and we both has long black-brown hair back then... of course she is taller than me. I used fake tanner one summer to get my pale skin to glow like her`s in this particular Guess compaign. Yet, I did not aquaint her with true beauty, or the add to success. So I was safe, albeit a little orange-er. LOL. All praise be to Allah.
When my little sister covets Guess handbags I resent that these handbags make her ``safe`` from schoolyard bullies. It reminds me of a sahih hadith provided Ayan that I hadn't quite memorised but had heard: Narrated Abu Hurairah, Allah's Messenger (sallalahu allahi wa salaam) said, "Ruin be to a slave of the Dinar; the slave of the Dirham, and the slave of the striped silk cloak. If he is given anything he is pleased, but if not, he is unhappy." (Al-Bukhari) It is not the fine clothing itself that is haraam and likely to bring harm and ruin to mankind, but the dependence on it.
I want warn my Muslim sisters about dependence on anything other than Allah subhanhu wa ta`la. Everything, and everyone, but He, the Exalted, will fail you inevitably. I do want to add, it is indeed too cliche, for us as Muslim women wearing our hijabs, to say that we aren`t a peice of marketing. My father, disbeliever that he is, has always been a wise man. When I tell him I am not selling my body in by hijab, he tells me, everbody is selling something.
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