Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Monday, June 24, 2013

Rant about some kinds of guys who think to make a-go at polygamy in Muslim Communities

Everyone who knows me knows I am totally all good with husbands taking more than one wife (my husband has two) provided they do it according to the sunnah.

But dudes, if you think you're going to be an example to the other brothers out there, don't be on welfare, and don't make your wife work to pay for herself so you can afford to take another wife.

Totally... not cool, not sunnah, and not a good citizen.

Just a word from the wise and experienced in this: If you don't pay for yourself and make enough for your first wife to stay home and never work... you probably can't afford to have another wife even if your first wife DOES work.

Khalas, get that thought right out of your heads!

Drives me bonkers when guys get a Shaykh complex and think marrying multiples will suddenly make them beacons of the straight path to everyone. Really, not so much when the dudes are on welfare or their wives work and have to pay for everything themselves, and this is from a working woman.

Ughhh. Moving on.

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Decorating, crafts, gifts, and baking ideas for Ramadan and the two Eids

This post is all about ways to get kids and yourself into the mood for Eid and Ramadan, with baking, craft, and decorating inspirations. An old post on the same subject on this blog: http://ilovehishmatheblog.blogspot.com/2011/08/cute-ramadaan-or-eid-decorating-ideas.html and below some lovely tablescapes for Eid and Ramadan:
From highly elaborate "Masjid/Mosque" cakes from the skilled baker/decorator to the more simplified cupcakes and sweets, my friend Taya from back in Canada always makes Ramadan special for her son by whipping up one of these sure-to-impress babies. A good way to make kids excited about fasting that's for sure.
 Another big thing about Eid or Ramadan is Eid gifts or sharing food. In Oman this is done more during Ramadan, with food, cupcakes, and cookies being the more normal, but I prefer for Eid gifts of cookies, gift bags of nuts and toys and candies, instead of Eidiyia money. I also love cupcakes---who doesn't, but found them to hard to gift until a friend showed me how she would paint cheap glass jars from Rameez and make cupcakes just the right size that they'd fit inside. ADORABLE!!! Healthier options include craved fruit, and more grown-up gifts for friends were always scarves, henna, bukhoor/insence in cute containers. I also have a friend who melts brown candles and uses a non-meltable henna tube (aka a rubber glove) to design beautiful henna-like designs on candles. She gave me a set of three as an Eid gift last year and it was so beautiful I never lit them. Some people say gift-giving makes Eid into a commercial holiday but I find I spend less than those who give out Eidyia and make alot of meat and rice for guests and buy elaborate new clothes for every family member for at least three days... so it depends. I like to do everything homemade and with stuff I already have at hand mostly.
Of course... if you ARE going to be more traditional and just hand out Eidyia money, then these cute envelopes for kids work nicely:
 Below: Ramadan countdown calendars for kids, places to put small toys and goodies for kids who fasted or for kids to put things they want to give to others, even a msall dua/prayer written on a piece of paper:
Eid cards:
 Lights for Ramadan nights, to turn on when going for Taraweeah prayers:
 On Eid, when all the grown-ups are busy doing henna or getting henna down why not let the kids have their hand at a less messier version with this craft:
 Paper decorations:
Places I got my inspiration's from:
1.) http://blog.jannahsteps.com/category/party-ideas/
2.) http://www.craftionary.net/2012/10/cute-pillow-and-frame-for-eid.html
3.) http://odetoinspiration.com/2012/10/page/2/
4.) http://odetoinspiration.com/2011/10/eid-lambs/
5.) http://littlelifeofmine.com/2010/09/eid-gifts.html
6.) http://odetoinspiration.com/2012/08/happy-eid-2/
7.) http://rplanfamily.wordpress.com/crafts-2/eid-crafts/eid-candy-decorations/
8.) http://www.greenprophet.com/2012/07/5-ramadan-crafting-ideas/
9.) http://www.sewchicandunique.com/2012/08/eid-mubarak-a-free-gift-tag-printable/
10.) http://www.hummusmama.com/2011/08/29/ready-set-eid/
11.) http://www.theecomuslim.com/2012/05/upcycle-eid-envelopes.html
12.) http://ramadanjoy.com/eid-gift-envelopes/
13.) http://eidcreations.blogspot.com/2012_03_01_archive.html
14.) www.latifalshamsi.com
15.) http://acraftyarab.blogspot.com/2012/07/green-eid-decorations-free-printables.html