And if you are wondering why I care to make my outfits and niqab as least threatening to the local public in my city as possible is a. in the first place I intend to wear niqab for Allah subhanhu wa ta'ala, but b. I don't want people to glare down my husband because of how I am dressing. He has his own style, I am I waaaaaaayyy more traditional. When it comes to furniture, Islamic hijab, (I mean, he's support me wearing head-to-toe bright lime green if I wanted to ALL the time so long as it was hijab). I am perfectly happy wearing beiges, chocolates, white, and black, but people tend to think that in these bits of clothing that I have no choice, and that my husband dresses me. And then they see his personal style (all parts of his skin covered but in western men's clothing) and me in a traditional black abaya and shayla (which he groans when I don all black but he loves the fact that I wear abaya and khimar of my own accord) they give him a look that could kill.
K, guys, I think my husband looks killer handsome in a thobe too, but he hates thobes, and me forcing him to wear one WOULD be like him forcing me to wear niqab or a hooter's t-shirt, which he doesn't on either accord, and couldn't even if he thought niqab was wajib or hijab was not part of the religion, and he doesn't---on either accord.
I like my husband's style, even if it can be loud, cuz I can be that way too, and it's just us. His head is always covered (but not by a ghutra or kufi---by a fedora), and I think its cute that he likes dressing up like an updated version of my World War II pilot Grandpa (and that they use the same aftershave), the way he thinks it's cute that I like overhead black abayas paired with gold mask birqas like his Saudi grandma. The only difference is, if I dressed like his grandma does here they might hurt him (one of the neo-nazi freaks), and if he dresses in a thob here and me in a normal western girl from my age group's clothes, they'd still hate him, because he'd totally look like a hypocrite. So either way is a lose lose for him, unless people can see I am having fun with maintaining my religious beliefs, the same way they realized I love and have choice in my abayas. Sooooooooooooo, that's sort of why I am using colours ya'll wouldn't expect, because this is a smaaaaaaaaaalllllll city I live in, and once the majority of people get used to something in a good way, they accept it, and get over themselves, and treat you nice. And stop giving the evil eye to my husband.