Well, making this set today I decided where I want the world's latest walima to be: at my Aunt's house. Today I bought a peachy cotton jalibiyia with a farasha/butterfly cut and the most delicate and elegant and simple embroidery at the sleeves and neckline. The takchita in the collage is nowhere are elegant and simple as my farasha-cut caftan but it was the best I could find to have some shape to it and keep the colour. I also bought a matching hijab. I spent $25.00 CAD in total. My caftan is vintage. I also intend to wear my grandmother's veil and lace cap (on top of the hijab as I'm sure my husband will want to invite some friends of his). To be honest, though I featured shoes, I am thinking of going barefoot. I grew up wearing stilleto shoes every waking moment of the day so much so that now wearing flats hurt my feet, but I wore runners to my prom (non-Muslims era stilletos and prom). I want to feel the warm grass between my toes. It will have to be sunny. This is a walima I can call off in a downpour and and move on to plan C (though I haven't quite formulated that one yet).
We will have few guests, but those that are there will be important. (I don't believe in the big hoopla of having people you don't know and yet not feeding the poor in the same instance). Nada, not me. Well, it will be outside, Muslims and non-muslims, in the sunny orchard we'll set up the tables for eating. My family will grill and barbecue the food. Boxie and I will spend the morning hanging paper lanterns around the badminton court which we'll convert into an area for my non-muslim relatves to dance (I want to see them dance though I won't dance in front of my cousins or my husband's guests). I will have to stipulare and force a strict non-alchohal policy. I am thinking of inviting an alcoholic aquiantance so to have a good excuse that will be good enough for my family. She and I will make bouquets and wreaths from the forest flowers, a wreath for all the guests to wear in their hair (men too---very South-side Saudi). We will have sparklers in the deserts and the wedding cake will be strawberry shortcake (with vanilla icecream on the side). All of the expense will go into the food and lanterns. Guests can play horseshoes or croquet (I suck at both), or walk through the woods. In fact, we'll force all the men to go through a brisk walk through the grounds so the girls can let loose on the dance floor a bit (I have found some crazy non-stringed instrument songs without profance or sexual lyrics we can let loose to). If they would like us to, we will oblige them and do the same.Later at night we'll all have a bonfire, roast halal marshmellows. Pray Isha together. Then head off for our not-really-honeymoon he he he. Cuz, we've been married for, like over three years already, and there will be no big surprises (inshaAllah right?) and this is the latest walima Evvv-er... But I love my man. Sometimes he drives me insane. And poor him, sometimes I am flat-out crazy. But alhamdulilah that these two people from two "very different" worlds (as people like to keep saying) met eachother. I can't imagine ever living without him so I look to the Qu'ran for what I cannot myself imagine: 36:56 "They and their spouses will be in groves of (cool) shade, reclining on Thrones (of dignity)" 13:23 "Gardens of perpetual bliss: they shall enter there, as well as the righteous among their fathers, their spouses, and their offspring: and angels shall enter unto them from every gate (with the salutation)" 52:21 "And those who believe and whose families follow them in Faith,- to them shall We join their families: Nor shall We deprive them (of the fruit) of aught of their works: (Yet) is each individual in pledge for his deeds."